| Re: My mother (drinking while babysitting)
Free babysitting or not, a caregiver should not be under the influence of alcohol or any drug while watching a child. Granted, some parents of their children do drink, but that is up to the parent. A babysitter should never. Also, it would be quite different if your parents were only having one beer while being with your child. It sounds like they are consuming more than that, and I also think they may have some problems with drinking. Regardless of that, you need to make it clear to them that you appreciate them babysitting, but you do not want any drinking while they are with your child. You and your husband need to have a united front. I understand that, since these are your parents, you don't want to do anything extreme in regard to them not being able to see your child. I also understand why your husband feels it might be better if they do not watch your child anymore. You could bring up a hypothetical situation to your parents, regarding babysitters, drinking, and how you feel about that situation. Otherwise, you might try a more direct approach with them to explain your viewpoint. Explain that you do not like your child to witness drinking and you want a fully clear-headed babysitter. Without accusing them, explain why you feel as you do and what you expect from any babysitter. Of course, have a calm, rational discussion about this, but don't back down from it. This is for the safety of your child. Obviously, you have to be able to risk losing the free babysitting, but I think it is worth the risk. They will not change their drinking habits unless they want to, but they do need to change their drinking habits around your child. Best wishes, and keep us posted on how it goes.